Your friend popped the question! Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a huge honor and tons of fun–the parties, the dresses, being surrounded by friends–it’s all so exciting. But between sipping champagne and diving for a bouquet, you’ll have some responsibilities to complete.

Here’s a list to help you make sure you’re meeting all of your expectations as a bridesmaid.

Before the Wedding

Get your party on

As a bridesmaid, one of your responsibilities is to attend all of the pre-wedding parties you can (doesn’t sound too shabby right?). But after the engagement party, bachelorette party, the umpteeth bridal shower and the rehearsal dinner you’re probably running low on free time and money. The upside is that the more parties you hit up, the better you get to know the rest of the wedding party and the more fun you’ll have on the big day.

Spread the word

Congratulate your bestie and her beau on Facebook and let people know you’re honored to be a part of their wedding day. People will likely go to you with questions so have answers to things like the wedding date and time, what stores they’re registered with and anything else people will need to know about.

Go shopping

If you live near the bride, you can offer to help with trips to the florist, wedding planner or craft store. At the very least, try to be there when she’s shopping for her wedding dress. Luckily the bride won’t have to wrangle all of the girls together for bridesmaid dress shopping since you can order them all online.

Be there

Skype, FaceTime or a good ole telephone call lets your friend know you’re there to help. Offer to lick envelopes or create name cards. Even if you live far away there are tasks you can complete to ease her stress. Plus, she’ll appreciate an open ear to vent her frustrations to.



On the Wedding Day


Look your best

You’ve already got the dress covered. But you’d better save up if your bride wants you to get your hair, nails and makeup done. Sometimes a bride will cover it and other times it’s up to you. This is her vision, so even if you hate sporting an updo, you just have to go with the flow. Don’t forget about shoes and jewelry either.

Channel your inner Olivia Pope

Today is all about the bride so part of your responsibility is to fix any problems that may arise. Botched flowers, lost tie, drunk best man, see if you can solve it without involving the bride. Keep this day as seamless as possible for her, she’s been dreaming of it for her entire life.

Say cheese!

Either pre or post the ceremony, you’ll take photos with the bridal party. Embrace it. You’ll look hot in your dress and make up and you’ll have awesome professional photos to capture it. Have your date get you a drink at the bar so it’s waiting when you wrap up.

Get your groove on

You and your groomsman have to come up with an unforgettable grand march entrance. Some favorites include: the lift scene from Dirty Dancing, brushing your shoulders off and swing dancing. Whatever you decide to do, go big or go home. Your energy will help get guests out on the dance floor and keep the party going all night.

Catch (or pretend to catch) the bouquet

Your job is to help round up all the single ladies in the crowd for the bouquet toss. Even if you dread the idea of catching it, it’s still fun to embrace the tradition. You can always run away or miss it if it’s heading toward you.

Give your bride a lift

If the MOH is MIA, offer to help the bride hold up her dress when she needs a bathroom break. It leads to a lot of laughs even years down the road.

Wrap it up

Help wrap up the party by loading gifts into the car, helping people exit and making sure nothing was left behind. Then it’s finally your turn to kick up your feet and relax.

Are you a seasoned bridesmaid? We’d love to hear your best advice.